Feature of the Month -October 2014
According to the Maryland Network Against Domestic Violence, domestic violence can take different forms, but its purpose is always the same. Abusers want to control their domestic partners through fear. They do this by abusing them physically, sexually, psychologically, verbally, and economically.
85% of all domestic violence victims are women who are abused by their husbands or boyfriends. Even though most victims are women, men can be victims, too.
Abusers typically deny that the abuse has occurred or make light of a violent episode. Abusers blame the victim, other people or outside events for the violent attack.
If you are a domestic violence victim, let the people who care about you, help you. If you are in danger or need immediate help, call 911. To develop a safety plan contact the:
Family Crisis Resource Center
If someone you care about is being hurt or abused by their partner, your help can make a big difference. How you respond to their situation is very important. Here are some things you can do to let your friend or family member know you care and want to be helpful:
1. Bring up the subject. Approach your friend or family member sensitively, without being critical. Let them know that you’re there if and when they need to talk to someone. Be patient.
2. Be a good listener. The most important thing you can do is to listen without being judgmental. Refrain from saying what you would do if you were in the same situation. Just listen and give helpful information, not advice.
3. Acknowledge that your friend or family member is in a very difficult, scary situation. Help your friend or family member to understand that the abuse is not their fault.
4. Help your friend or family member recognize the abuse, if they are in denial. Express your concerns about their safety and provide them with information about domestic violence and where they can get help.
5. Respect your friend or family member’s right to make their own decisions. Refrain from making decisions on your friend or family member’s behalf. Focus on listening and supporting them, even if you don’t agree with them. Never apply pressure.
6. Help your friend or family member build self-confidence. Offer practical assistance. If they are going to the police, to court, or to see a lawyer, offer to go along with them. Allow your friend or family member to do the talking.
7. Help your friend or family member increase their safety. Help your friend or family member learn about all the legal options that are available to them. If they are contemplating leaving an abusive relationship, help them develop a Personal Safety Plan.
8. Maintain some level of regular contact with your friend or family member. Be honest about the amount and type of support you can offer. Don’t push yourself beyond your own limits – you can only fully support your friend or family member if you look after yourself, too. Source: http://mnadv.org
Family Crisis Resource Center is a private non-profit agency that provides services in Cumberland and Frostburg. Services offered include a 24-hr hotline, counseling, crisis and supportive services, advocacy and accompaniment, information and referrals, emergency shelter, legal services, supervised visitation and exchange, community outreach and education, and abuse intervention program. All services for victims are completely free of charge. Americans die by suicide each year than are killed in car accidents. So why aren’t we talking about it?
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Cumberland Country Club Mall – Food Court
1st and 3rd Tuesday of each month 8-9 a.m.
Outside the Cafeteria WMRMC
1st Pay Day Thursday of Month 11:30 a.m. -12:30 p.m.
For other options, call WMHS Community Health & Wellness at 240-964-8424